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Low mood/negative thinking or depression

Dealing with fertility problems will naturally bring bouts of sadness and frustration. The loss of the hoped for pregnancy after a negative outcome is always accompanied by a mourning period. You may also feel sad if you hear of a friend’s or colleagues pregnancy or when faced with a decision over whether to continue with assisted fertility treatment. However, there is a difference between low mood/sadness and depression.

Fertility related depression includes:

  • Negative predictions about the future
  • Over thinking negative events in the past
  • Feelings of hopelessness about the present and future
  • Feeling unable to help oneself – helplessness
  • Over focusing on the negatives and presuming it will remain the same
  • Is more present that not over weeks and sometimes months (throughout treatment)
  • Feeling very tearful
  • Feeling irritated and intolerant of others (especially if they ask questions about planning a family)
  • Difficulty sleeping or staying asleep
  • Lacking in motivation
  • Withdraws into oneself – away from family, friends or colleagues
  • Feeling no joy or pleasure in life
  • Feeling numb

Online Fertility Counselling aims to support you with:

  • Overcoming feelings of depression or constant low mood
  • Providing a space to express your feelings and thoughts
  • Increasing activities which support and nurture
  • Provide CBT and fertility support handouts (via email) to support positive emotional change
  • Integrating Mindfulness Based Cognitive skills to increase wellbeing and self acceptance
  • Integrating support techniques e.g. thought records and journaling to process loss and increase self compassion (being your own best friend) at this challenging time


Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a type of psychotherapy that looks at:

  • The way you think about yourself/others
  • What you think about the situation (e.g. fertility problem) you are experiencing and
  • How what you do and feel is influenced by what you think and believe

Mindfulness Therapy is beneficial because Mindfulness supports the body and the mind.

  • Integrating Mindfulness improves mental and physical health
  • It helps to relieve stress and improve sleep
  • Mindfulness is supportive in the treatment of depression, low mood, anxiety, couples conflict and stress reduction
  • Mindfulness helps people to manage painful emotions
    (Harvard Medical School)