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Pregnancy stress following treatment

Becoming pregnant, following fertility treatment, can bring a range of contrasting emotions; joy and relief can be mixed with fear/stress, low mood (thinking the worst) and worrying thoughts.

The first few months can be filled with mood swings from elation to anxiety. It can be challenging to know when it’s the right time to tell friends and family, especially if you have experienced a miscarriage previously. Your pregnancy experience can feel different to friends or family as you may over focus on pregnancy symptoms or feel disconnected from the pregnancy itself.

Feelings and thoughts that can accompany a pregnancy, following fertility treatment may include:

  • A heightened fear of pregnancy loss
  • Anxiety symptoms – worrying thoughts, racing mind, tense, difficulty sleeping, seeking reassurance from others
  • Low mood relating to negative predictions about the future
  • Stress about anxiety – “I should not feel this way”, “this is not good for me or the baby, I ought to be calm”, “I should not complain about morning sickness or any symptoms. I must be happy all the time”
  • A feeling of being disconnected. Fear of bonding with the pregnancy after so much previous loss
  • Guilt, if you have a friend going through treatment and is not pregnant
  • A belief that because you went through fertility treatment, you ‘must’ be the ‘perfect’ parent and never have any challenging feelings towards pregnancy, birth or parenting. This internal demand to experience the ‘perfect’ attitude to pregnancy and parenting adds additional stress
  • Difficulty with coming to terms with being pregnant, after many years of struggling to achieve it – “I shouldn’t feel like this. What’s wrong with me, I’ll never be happy” (leading to low mood)

Fertility Counselling Online aims to support you with:

  • Overcoming symptoms of stress and anxiety with Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Techniques
  • Challenging worrying and negative thoughts with CBT thought records & techniques
  • Integrating self-acceptance and mindfulness skills to enhance self/pregnancy connection
  • Challenging and changing unhelpful guilt causing beliefs
  • Establishing a self care & nurturing care plan for pregnancy and beyond
  • Increasing relaxation response feelings
  • Establishing realistic goals regarding motherhood – what is ‘good enough’ mother rather than ‘perfect mother?’
  • Improving your overall emotional and mind health well-being


Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is a type of psychotherapy that looks at:

  • The way you think about yourself/others
  • What you think about the situation (e.g. pregnancy and motherhood) you are experiencing and
  • How what you do and feel is influenced by what you think and believe
  • Mindfulness Therapy is beneficial because Mindfulness supports the body and the mind.

  • Integrating Mindfulness improves mental and physical health
  • It helps to relieve stress and improve sleep
  • Mindfulness is supportive in the treatment of depression, low mood, anxiety, couples conflict and stress reduction
  • Mindfulness helps people to manage painful emotions
    (Harvard Medical School)